The Environmental Affect on Dating Interaction
So you have a date lined up, whether you are going out or meeting at your place here are a few factors to take into account to make the meeting a success. People react emotionally to their surroundings so you need some idea of what these affects are so you can use them to your advantage.
Formality
Going somewhere very formal and up market together with being dressed up for the occasion, for instance a banquet maybe impressive but would be more formal than your local restaurant, which in turn is more formal than a snack in a bar. The more formal the more like the communication is going to be tense, superficial, hesitant and stylised. So if is information you want choose an informal situation.
Feeling of Warmth
Some restaurants will go out of their way to create a feeling of warmth therefore encouraging diners to stay as long as possible, however, fast food outlets while being comfortable, display enough coldness to encourage people to move on and ensure a raid turn over of people who want your seat.
Privacy
If you are on a date you need to be in a public place but many establishments are able to provide some degree of privacy without being formal. The greater the privacy the conversation will be correspondingly more personal and intimate with people speaking closer together.
Familiarity
Unfamiliar surroundings are and environments are full of customs and practices that we do not know of, the exception are large restaurant and hotel chains that are all the same so you walk into one and you have walked into them all. In unfamiliar environments much of the conversation will usually be about the environment itself. If possible choose somewhere you know or get to know it before you meet.
Constraint
Part of our reaction to any environment is the speed with which we can leave it, this is important if you are meeting on a first date. Check the escape routes out of the building.
Distance
If we are stuck in a situation whereby peo,e are too close we create psychological distance, like in a crowded bus we do not make eye contact. If you move in too quickly the same thing will happen. You need enough distance or space to move in or out according to how intimate the situation is becoming and you do not want anything in the way.
Other People
It is OK to have other people present as in a bar or restaurant as long as they are passive. You do not want other people in the same environment causing a distraction in which case then then become active participants in what is going on, if the person you are with shows more interest in others then they are not interested in you.
Colour
Colour is important in creating the right mood, psychological testing has revealed that the most pleasant and relaxing in order are, blue, green, purple, red and yellow. If you just want a relaxed environment stay with pastel shades of blue and green or turquoise. The most arousing colours in order are red, orange, yellow, violet, blue, and green If you want an arousing environment then it has to be red or a red pink, orange maybe arousing but it is the least poplar colour.
Music,
Music always add to the mood but it has to be the right mood, it should not drown out the conversation which is like to causer irritability in one or both parties. Background music should be just that music without nay singing to distract the conversation there is a huge range of new age or world music Cd’s that would do nicely when you are talking. However, once things start to happen then most people like pop music and there are two types that you need, the first are the ballads these tend to be in the key of F or F# these are good for arousing the emotions, the other is rock this is usually in the key of C or C# and is good for sexual arousal. Play them according to the circumstances!
Lighting
Lighting helps use to perceive situations and will in turn influence the sort of signals we send to the other person. We talk much more freely and intimately in dim or candle lit environments, whereas bright lights only add to the anxiety of meeting strangers. However, the candles and dim lights on work if then other person is interested! if they are not they will be hesitant, uncomfortable and reduced eye contact.
The Natural Environment
Much of the conventions concerning these matters will depend upon the customs associated with your natural environment, neighbourhood area, town, city, and country. The weather and seasons also play a part, as a log fire in the middle of summer would be inappropriate, but so would a freezing cold house in the middle of winter.
Mystical Influences
Some say the phases of the moon can cause depression or melancholy behaviour, where as your astrological forecast for that day may say that such meetings are favourable or unfavourable.
Summary
There are three main environmental factors you need to take into account with regard to the outcome of your encounter.
- The natural environment in which you live and meet.
- The presence or absence of other people and the active or passive role they take on during the meeting.
- Interior design including colour, lighting, music and general visual appeal.
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