Mates 101

11Oct
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and so i wonder.


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He said he would be there for me,
He said he would never leave me,
No one knows how i feel deep inside,
No one was there when it happened in real life,
Some say I left for another guy,
Some say I left because I’ve had enough,
No…
I left because everything became different,
Him and i became different,
Our love is like a shattered glass now,
Our love could never grow again,
He moved on,
I couldn’t,
He came back,
I came back,
He moved on,
I moved on..
I’m tired of crying for him,
Because I know he won’t cry for me,
He blames me for everything,
He doesn’t blame himself,
I keep it inside,
I carry with me all the burden too,
I don’t want to look back anymore,
For I Don’t want to cry over him again,
I don’t want to fight back for him,
Because I know he won’t hear me,
And he chooses to not hear me,
I moved on..
It’s all been done,
I’m someone new now,
So don’t come looking for me now, (well,to tell you the truth,he never did. never tried)
Live a life full of smiles and happiness,
Go out without telling anyone about it and feel blessed,
I thanked the lord for changing me into someone new,
Something worthwhile and got rid of all my blues,
He can keep everything,
I can keep the memories,
I ask for nothing,
Everything is done.

I did this when i was young. there’s something about this that i could never forget of what happened. i hope you are reading this Keem Musdi. to know how much pain you’ve caused me and i to you. you and i both know the truth. there’s no easy way to say sorry but to rather lie to ourselves and build up those hatred inside of the two of us.

And so i wonder if you do still think about me.
And so i wonder if you do still love me inside somewhere.
And so i wonder if there will ever be another chance for us to tie the knot and never let go.
And so i wonder.
And so i wonder.

I never got the chance to say thank you. I know I’ll never be given the chance to apologize eventhough i’ve apologized millions of times (i assure you i can apologize a million more just for you. let me apologize. I don’t want to carry this burden anymore). i don’t think i’ll ever have the chance to do so. wherever you are. i hope sooner or later maybe someday,everything will be okay again.

- Fee.W

Posted by admin in General
10Oct
0

you met me…

Posted by admin in General
10Oct
0

through it all


unknown

I love being held. I love when I am in someones arms, and I know that they would do anything for me. yea, I know its selfish but that is what I love. I love waking up to someone and smiling and having them smile back. When you are cold, and you are sharing a blanket and you have their sweatshirt on. your hair is all a mess and your breath smells and you nuzzle up to their neck and they nuzzle you back and wrap their arms around you. and you smile. And fall right back asleep.

I love walking into a room and he smiles back at you, you work your way over, making googiley eyes just for fun until you reach him, and then he wraps you in a big hug and you say hi and act like you haven’t seen each other in ages. That is a great feeling.

Feeling the rush of his lips trail down your body, covering every spot of skin. Giving in to him, giving him what you both want. Feeling like one. Knowing your love will not fade. Knowing giving him that will make him keep you forever, just as you want.

The happy moments, the secret smiles. Going out with his family and saying something they don’t get, but he gives me that look that tells me he got it and he found it funny. Him telling me how beautiful I am in front of his family. Them looking at us and seeing how much we adore each other. The feeling of pride when his mom tells me she is happy her son has found someone so worth his love.

The tears after a big fight. And then him rushing over to dry them with kisses, not being able to sleep until he knows I am better.

The silent way people drift apart, the way the secret smiles fade. The fights end in crying with no one to hold you. the way your world seems to collapse, but you know this isn’t the way its supposed to be.

YELLING AT HIM TO FIX IT. even though you know you did more damage than he did.

After the break up, the feeling of betray as you look at another guy. Knowing you shouldn’t be looking, you don’t belong to them. knowing he still doesn’t look at anyone but you.

When you hang out, the way his eyes watch yours,the way they say sorry, the way you know he wants to kiss you and make all the pain go away. Trying your hardest not to cry because he refuses to become a couple together.

Being completely in love with him. and him with you.

Being best friends.

Him thinking he is not good enough, so he wants you to find someone that is.

You refusing to find someone else because you want him.

The complications. The tears. The heartache.

The feeling of love through it all.
-J

Posted by admin in General
09Oct
0

close your eyes…



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Posted by admin in General
08Oct
0

i just wish we were each others to have


unknown

i thought we were having a conversation
arms wrapped around each other,
drunk and i was talking and then
your mouth was on my mouth
and for three
maybe five
maybe twelve seconds
we were kissing.

it happened Friday night
in the bar as it closed down.
the music had stopped
but we stayed and stood in the dark and
we were sweaty, my hair was curly
and crazy from dancing
all night.

it happened so fast and i was so surprised
that when when we went outside
i had almost forgotten about it.

almost.

after Mexican at 3 am
we all went to your house to pee,
and your girlfriend was on the couch
watching tv with your dog.

i couldn’t even focus on her face,
i barely remember leaving.

I know how to handle this because
i have stood on each point of that triangle,
and i get it.

i just wish we were each others to
have.
-c

Posted by admin in General
07Oct
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Signs of Attraction – How to Tell if a Guy or Girl is Interested

Signs of Attraction

How to Tell if a Guy or Girl is Interested in You

We get lots of people asking this sort of question such as

  • how to tell if a girl is interested
  • how to tell if a guy likes you
  • signs of attraction
  • how to know if a guy likes you
  • signs he’s interested
  • signs he likes you online
  • how to know if a guy likes you
  • how to know he’s interested in you
  • how do you know if a girl is interested in you
  • signs of physical attraction
  • signs of a mans sexual attraction
  • how to tell if a guy likes you online talk

Online dating obviously makes it more difficult to read the physical signs of attraction, but that is a good thing as there needs to be a meeting of minds before you meet the person and that is why some experts think that online dating is a good way of meeting people. Of course once you actually meet them then the list below will be useful.

Sexual or physical attraction is usually the motivation for people to show an interest or make contact so if you are online dating and someone has seen your photo make sure it is recent to avoid a bit disappointment. Any sort of comment or action that draws attention to someones sexuality or physical attributes is a sign of sexual interest, having said that some being find intellect sexy. (more…)

Posted by admin in General
02Oct
0

Choose The Right Place When Going on Date

The Environmental Affect on Dating Interaction

So you have a date lined up, whether you are going out or meeting at your place here are a few factors to take into account to make the meeting a success. People react emotionally to their surroundings so you need some idea of what these affects are so you can use them to your advantage.

Formality

Going somewhere very formal and up market together with being dressed up for the occasion, for instance a banquet maybe impressive but would be more formal than your local restaurant, which in turn is more formal than a snack in a bar. The more formal the more like the communication is going to be tense, superficial, hesitant and stylised. So if is information you want choose an informal situation.

Feeling of Warmth

Some restaurants will go out of their way to create a feeling of warmth therefore encouraging diners to stay as long as possible, however, fast food outlets while being comfortable, display enough coldness to encourage people to move on and ensure a raid turn over of people who want your seat. (more…)

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30Sep
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Love Spell to Bring Back a Lover into Your Life

Cast a Love Spell to Bring Back a Lover into Your Life

Many of use wish we could bring back a lover into our life, despite what others may tell you its a natural thing to want to do and is part of the grieving process, so perhaps you need to do this either to make it work or to start the process of letting go. There may also be someone that you know that you would like to bring into your life and sending out positive thoughts just may help you do that. Some people maybe against such things but if you are already thinking about it you are in effect already doing it! So there is no harm in doing it in a positive way, but for best results there should already be a bit of chemistry between you and in that respect this spell can be used to reignite a failing relationship. (more…)

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17Sep
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Cancer – Lovers Guide for Men and Women

Cancer – Lovers Guide for Men and Women

Cancer Lovers Guide for Men and WomenCancer is an astrological Water Sign, which is associated with the constellation Cancer. Under the tropical zodiac, Cancer is occupied by the Moon from June 21 to July 22 and under the sidereal zodiac, it is currently from July 21 to August 9. The sign opposite to Cancer is Capricorn. Cancer is the fourth sign of the Zodiac and associated with family and domesticity.

Urban Myths and Legends

Cancer has a reputation for being a bit of an ‘old woman’ that attempts to mother and smother everyone around them. This also has connotations of being devouring and possessive with regard to all relationships in which the apron string is ready and waiting to tie people up to make sure they do not escape. Mother and family life figure strongly in the make up of both sexes and quite often have big families themselves. There is an issue for the male Cancerian in that he is both mother and son, and while this may have incestuous overtones it signifies a natural force of new life such as that associated with the seasons, of something growing old giving way to the young. It is also associated with cycles like the old and new moon, which is Cancers ruling planet, of phases such as the ebb and flow of the tide. (more…)

Posted by admin in Astrology
10Aug
0

Questions to Ask on a Date and How to Get the Answers

What Questions To Ask and How to Listen to the Answers on a Date.

What Questions to Ask

So you have got as far as arranging a date to meet and you must have a load of questions or perhaps you are wondering which questions to ask. Always remember they will also we wondering about the same things. In answer to the question should you talk about old relationships read this post Should You Talk About Old Relationships first. If you need some advice on informal questions read this post Questions To Ask On A First Date.

To be more specific you need to ask questions that concentrate on three main areas that are proven to shed light on just about everything else in a persons life.

  1. How tolerant and compassionate is this person.
  2. What is there social and economic background.
  3. How satisfied are they with their lives

You probably want to know about their track record with relationships but asking a direct question is not advisable, but unless they have something to hide they should tell you general details, by asking questions related to the three issues above you will learn a bit more to fill in any significant gaps. Here are some questions which you can adapt:

  • Where were you born and raised, its two questions in one so find out both.
  • You obviously know where they live now, if not find out, and ask what made them move there.
  • Where do or did their parents live and what do they do or did for a living
  • How many siblings or children do they have and are they in contact.
  • You should know what they do in their free time but try to elaborate.
  • What concerns them most about the world we live in and what makes them really angry.
  • What do they think about the disadvantaged or victims of some natural disaster.
  • What books or magazines do they read.
  • What TV shows do they watch and what is their favourite programme.
  • Do they belong to any political parties, organisations or clubs.
  • What are their goals for the next five years and how are they going to achieve them
  • What did they want to be when they were at school, and did their parents help them.
  • Did they achieve their ambitions and if not, why not, leading to what have they done since.

Adapt and modify thee questions to suit your circumstances plus add a few of your own that are relevant.

Asking the questions is one thing you will only get good answers if you listen to, and watch the reply as body language needs to fit the words. If you are in a restaurant watch how they  treats the waiters or waitresses and how he pays the bill.

You may need to ask questions in three different ways, but if its going well just stick to the first two as being argumentative could lead to a disaster.

  1. Open ended – this is an open invitation to just chat so let them say what they want, the skill in asking this sort of question is that you do not give any expectation of what you want the answer to be so they are much more likely to give you an honest answer.
  2. Leading – this is a specific question that demands a specific answer and it help is you let them know you know a bit about the subject so they cannot pull the wool over your eyes. So put the question in terms of how, what, or does… do you have, or can you think of…
  3. Argumentative – this is a direct confrontation used as a last resort to obtain information, which could mean the end the relationship. So if you feel you need to do it just stop and ask if its worth the ill feeling that may arise, if you have nagging doubts then you already have your answer.

How to Listen to the Answers

It is often the case that people asking questions talk so much they never hear the answer, so if you want hear hear the reply and gain the information you need the first thing you have to do is stop talking.

Here are some good listening do’s and dont’s

  • Do not interrupt or you may lose it, within reason let people talk for as long as they like, watch some TV interviews some let people go on and hang themselves others interrupt so often they never get an answer to their questions.
  • Empathise with what they are saying, do not condemn their views, patronise them or get into and argument even if you disagree. The idea is to find out what they think, if you find it objectionable then you may have your answer to the question is this relationship going anywhere do not.
  • Get involved with what they are saying to show you are listening, ask for clarification on things you do not understand or know nothing about. Also give them the occasion OK, or right and nod your head but do not go overboard it is a distraction.
  • Be aware of your own body language, grimacing, frowning, shaking your head, looking around the room or at the ceiling is guaranteed to get them to stop. To show that you are interested, lean slightly forward, make eye contact for most of the time, and smile.
  • Do not indicate what you consider to be right or wrong answers either verbally or non verbally, they will pick it up and respond accordingly

Talking About Yourself

You already know that it takes two to have a good conversation, so even if you have all the right questions lined up they are no use to you unless you can first of all listen and then give something of yourself. You can do this a little bit to see if they are going to respond in kind or use to make some point, avoid a situation whereby you tell them everything and they tell you nothing. Consider the context in which things are said which do  not necessarily mean the same when taken on their face value. Listen with all you senses and not just your ears what is your intuition saying to you.

Create the Right Environment and Set the Scene

  • You need to be in the right place to have the right sort of conversation, if its a fun trip out then heavy conversation would be inappropriate.
  • If its between the two of you on personal issues then you need some degree of privacy in a public place, you do not want an audience, or constant interruption.
  • You need clear line of sight so you can see and hear them in order to read their body language, if there are flowers on the table in the way move them.
  • Get rid of or prevent any distractions or possible distractions such as the cell phone ringing just when they were about to tell you what you wanted to know.

It is Also a  Question of Timing

  • Timing is crucially important, there are always good times and bad times to raise certain issues depending on the mood and the situation.
  • If some kind of event has happened that will have caused some kind of unset then leave the questions for another time.
  • Go slowly and easy do not rush into penetrating questions as the conversation may well grind to a halt and remember that what one person believes in may cause offence to others.
  • You do not have to get answers to all your  questions in one go leave some for another time.
  • Even if you have been able to ask all those important questions it may appropriate to give them some time to think things over before they give you an answer.
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